My partner has always called gay sex acts and only really manages to have sex with This incentive. He was honest in this from the very beginning. I am pretty unconducted and Set with many scenarios It started it. He says this is just a bend, and he is not gayField
However, now Every time we have sex, he is always focused on fantasies that he is with a man. He never looks at me with a desire, except to say that my face is really beautiful. I can walk naked, and he will not beat the age. He sees me like FemThe house, which, I think, means that he likes him to make it “come out“. He is an honest man, kind to me, and we get along very well. I just feel a little undesirable, like a woman and once worry, he will decide that he is actually gay.
What should I do? He swears that he wants to be with me only and will always love me, he will never deceiveand I Trust him completely. I do not want to talk about this in case I make him feel bad, because I want him to feel safe and accepted. Should I stop worrying about my own suspensionUPS?
Various couples make all kinds of in different agreements with each other – some of them, some unspoken. In your partnership, it seems that you initially found parity; You both benefited from an agreement between you. In addition to the fact that you were happy in your everyday life together, you were able to use your sexual creativity to satisfy it, and, in turn, he was able to avoid the need to recognize aspects of his sexual orientation that made him inconvenient.
As long as you felt that this agreement was fair, you were satisfied with this, but now the balance has changed, and you are eager to be in full desirable. You will have to carefully think about whether the advantages of it are outweighed.
What is most important is to stop belittling your feelings, like your “own raising”. The woman knows if she likes, and it is very painful. You care and protect him and his feelings, but your own feelings are strong and valid, and they must respect you with both.
Pamela Stevenson Konnolly-psychotherapist from the USA, specializing in the treatment of sexual disorders.
