My Adult Twins May Be Identical, but They Don’t Want to Know for Sure

When my child began to grow with anxiety, I convinced myself that pregnant women are always more for the third time. It was a segment – literally. At 11 weeks, my stomach looked five months, and my nausea was without a break. My The doctor suggested ultrasound To clarify my term. I adhered to the script in my head: your body was here before. He just does what he knows how to do.

“Can you see it?” The technician asked.

I looked at the screen above my growing stomach, and various shades of gray swayed in a focus.

“This is a head,” she said, smiling. I exhaled, assured that a person was really grown in my body.

“Now you see What? “She pointed to the second bulge of the change in the form.

“This is the ass of a child?” My husband asked.

“No,” she said, having received a blow. “This is … another head.”

Like a pinball, my eyes rushed from an alien image to her empty face, to the convex eyes of my husband and back.

“Gemini,” she said, gently touching my hand. “You have twins.“

They were born in 34 weeks

Most parents of animators lived some version of this story. Shock, horror, acute sensations, uncertainty. And in my case, despair is to control what cannot be controlled.

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After 34 weeks and exactly five pounds each, Lucas and Callum arrived healthy, although surprisingly. We believed They were fraternalThanks to several scanning, which shows two fruits, each with his own placenta is a control sign.

I did not question.

Only when a recent search in Google appeared third identical twins can be separated within a few days of conception, each embryo develops its own placenta, which I was shocked. Not to mention the fact that to 20% OF All twins are incorrectly identified. It was then that he clicked as it was before.

All confused them

What I saw then was a couple Prizes Still to come to his senses. They looked just like their two older brothers at birth, and I believed that their unique characteristics would begin over time.

Except what they have never done. Not really. Of course, there were subtle differences in the form of their faces and the completeness of their cheeks, but for those who did not see them daily, he appeared next to It is impossible to tell them separatelyThe field of little birthiness on Lucas's right hand was a find that minimizes the number of times when they had to endure the question that they hated: “What are you?”

I could not overcome a similarity that has gone beyond the limits of facial features – The way Lucas seemed to be a continuation of Callum and vice versa. I admired how they reached out to each other, clutching their hands while they looked after by side, how easily they settled if they slept in the same crib, how they answered a call of nature every morning – between 8:25 and 8:30. As adolescents, they were an unsurpassed team Sharad, accurately deciphering the tips for several seconds. I had no answer when people asked how their personalities were different. I would mumble, they were still.

Constantly during the inches and pounds of each other on annual examinations, they were more intertwined than I could imagine when I could imagine.

They refused the DNA test to find out whether they are identical

Nevertheless, despite all the evidence, I clung to the fact that they were fraternal. There was simplicity in knowledge. Brothers and sisters, with two different DNAs who have just been born 45 minutes from each other. For us it was just small, their older brothers, Big.

Now, at 23, they are no longer so little. Standing 6 'growth, they have different interests, groups of friends and life classes, but people constantly confuse them. Callum believes that now they resemble each other more than when they are, when children. Therefore, when I asked him if he would consider the cameras in his cheek for $ 119 to determine whether he was really a fraternal twin, he laughed.

“No, I don't care,” he said. “It did not occur to me at all.”

“Does it really matter?” Lucas asked.

“Yes, what's the difference?” Callum added.

“I think the desire to learn more for You than for us, ”Lucas suggested.

From the mouth of the twins of the kids. This was More for me. In fact, it was for me. It seems that I'm still trying to put my double in a neat small box. To name, identify: you are, not that. It is as if this in some way unlocks a deeper meaning, the revelation of them, which we have missed in some way. The question showed more about me than any answer.

The truth is that the education of the twins is difficult. It is also one of the greatest privileges.

With a label or without one.

So I take my hint from my boys who seem to live in my life. I will not insist on answers that they do not want. And now, when someone is surprised: “What are you?” They finally have an easy answer, and he speaks for himself.

Lucas has a mustache.

Angela Yazbek-Liva Canadian first-generation writer and former CBC-TV journalist from Toronto. You can find it on Instagram.