‘Love Is Blind’ Season 9: Patrick Suzuki and Kacie McIntosh’s breakup

This article contains spoilers for the first six episodes of the 9th season “Love Blind”.

“Are you trying to part with me?”

“Love-Slopa,” Netflix softening dating documented her fair share of awkward and strange gaps throughout his run. But the one that arrives at the end of the first batch of episodes of the ninth season is now perhaps the most deserving attention and sobering a reminder of how the fantastic premise of the show is not always obsessed with the reality of the acquaintance.

The season “Colorado” introduced the audience to Patrick Suzuki, the project manager, who opened an experiment about his uncertainty in the dating highway as an Asian American. On the phases of the capsule of the show, in which the participants get acquainted with each other, having “dates” in the room where they are separated by a luminous blue wall, Suzuki set his strong ties with two women: Anna Yuan, hairdressers and Casey Macintosh, hair and make -up artist.

Be that as it may, the show of the show about testing whether the singles can fall in love depending on the emotional connection, there is a curiosity for physical attributes and is often discussed – and, in some cases, become viral moments if you mention You are Doppelglen – Megan FoxThe Suzuki field is connected with Yuan from their general experience, since Asian Americans living in Colorado; Like him, she said that she basically meet white people. Macintosh, Mormon, assured Suzuki at an early stage of this dating behind her race was not a problem with her or her family.

In the end, Suzuki suggested Makintosh (Yuan decided to leave production early). While their interaction at the disclosure seemed to be good, although somewhat awkward, given the vortex circumstances, after a few hours Suzuki was caused by production to meet with Macintosh. What happened next was the macintosha puzzling attempt with a gap that was never directly declared; Instead, she told him that she did not want to go further, taking off the next stage of the experiment, which was a trip to Badju as a couple. “They [producers] Asking me if it has something related to how you look, ”she says through tears, caressing his head.“ I'm just like, “no”. It was a unilateral conscious disassembly, which was more confusing due to the fact that they were more confusing due to the fact that they did not embarrass when Plazuki felt alone, feeling, despite the fact that Makntosh many times when they broke.

For the video, the call of Suzuki discussed his experience of breaking as dating in the experiment “Love Blind” compared with real life and whether something good came from his time on the show.

This conversation was edited for length and clarity.

How would you describe what your “Love Is Blind” experience was like?

This experience was transformative. I didn’t know what I was getting into, exactly, when I got there. I’m just really glad that I did it and glad that things happened the way they did because it made me a lot stronger man, I think, and made me break free from a lot of things that I was dealing with and learn a lot about myself. Overall, 10 out of 10, A-plus experience.

You were very open from the start about your insecurities as an Asian American man on the dating circuit. How did that lead you to apply for “Love is Blind”? How does finding love on the show compare to your experience in real life?

For me, [applying] It was more like bold. I talked with my cousin – my cousin of an Asian man in Colorado – and we both grew up as the only Asian children in the classroom, so we have a similar understanding of where we are. He was just like: “Dude, I think you would be a good performance on the show.” And I said: “Dude, I don’t even watch the reality -show. I don't want to do this. ” He is: “No, no, I think you have to try.” Obviously, we have already talked about Asian masculinity; We are already looking at our dating applications and how we do not get a lot of traction. This is where it began. We tried, we submitted an application. I hit the show, and then began to show uncertainty and show confidence and see where it would go.

In real life – especially in my environment – I do not think that any of these dates would have received; We speak of all these girls, I would never have received a date with any of these girls in dating applications or personally. Maybe one or two who know. The opportunity to go into “Love is blind”, and hide everything, and it’s just me, my personality and my confidence, and to see how relations grow and come out – honestly, it was magical. You should be there, but it was just a magical, surpassing the moment. Day after day it was like: “Damn, this is enough doping.”

You mentioned that you are not an observer for the reality show, but I assume that you had some awareness of “Love Blind.” Did you bit him before applying or before you entered the pods?

I saw it. My sister watched this in the first season. And I said: “Good, it's strange.” After a few seasons, I looked like, it is quite cool, but still strange. Then it was like: “Damn, they come to Denver. Damn, ok, let's try. Damn, now I'm here. ” I begin to see the beauty behind this, and how much freedom they give me just to be themselves, and allow the girls to be themselves, and they are all from Denver, and this is suck that I had to do it so because it was on that [global] Stage and platform. I would like to just conduct this experiment on a local level. But sometimes you have to do it.

It is obvious that it is difficult to conduct a schedule when the experience was edited, but it seemed that you have revealed your race Pretty early, and it was not quite by choice. Have you considered it at all? And let's talk about this moment of oscillations When The topic was raised in pods.

The way I felt, I was going to keep him to the very end. In my head, I thought it was a game. At first I said: “Good, it's pretty funny, cool.” But then it became very serious, very quickly halfway. I'm starting to catch feelings. These girls begin to catch feelings. I said that if you can find out the pods, and you can go through all these things, and you will get married, it will be a rather strong connection. This can be something than you can share forever. At this moment I looked like, I have to give them everything and explain to them my experience, ethnicity, everything, just to be completely vulnerable. I do not think that it would be true for them so as not to know. How can you say “yes to someone” when you are going to enter my world? My mother is Cambodian, and she is amazing. I love her to death. She is the best cook. But there are many cultural things that you must do here. And there are many cultural stigm that she looks at when it comes to female and male gender roles. I have to explain all these things before asking someone to marry me. That's how I thought about it.

We speak before the season has fallen. Did you have the opportunity to see which season?

I have not seen anything.

With this in mind how you look back at your experience with Kacie and Anna? Kachi quickly gave her confidence that it wasNot The interracial couple was not a problem. And Anna, like you, said that she usually had white partners.

We really criticized, I am Kachi, and I and Anna. We really built a connection. I think she [Kacie] I was honest and truthful with everything that she told me, I just don't think the experiment worked for her. She did not mislead. We were cool, we kicked this. She just didn't want to do it anymore. It is what it is.

You offer Kachi accepts. You are met. She is affectionate in this meeting. A couple of hours later you were called back to talk to her because she wants to finish it. Tell me what is happening in your head when all this happened.

My guard rose a little when I heard that she wanted to talk because I thought that the show went pretty well. I felt good about it. I think that we both said to each other that we loved each other. I came in and just wanted to hear what she wanted to tell me. I really did not know what she was going to tell me.

She is trying to be gentle and clearly concerned about optics, but it is more difficult for you to understand what is really happening. You think that she just does not want to make a show, but she wants to end a relationship. It was an awkward and confusing exchange, and this is from the point of view of the viewer. How did it become for you?

In a thousand percent I was so confused. [laughs] I was like, with [a] Flower: Does she love me? Doesn't she love me? But in hypercority mode. I did not know. I'm just trying to find out what she is trying to tell me all the time. I just did not understand what she tried to tell me. But, looking back, it looks like: “Oh, she just tried to tell me that she did not want to do this.” At the moment, your emotions rise high; I still completely trusted her.

She pierced you at some moment. I could not understand what happened.

I thought the same.

Both you and Anna admit that before that you had only dated or mostly white people. What covered this experience regarding any potential internalized prejudices, or how was it a school moment?

Viewing the experience made me really think about it. I was born and raised in Colorado; she [Anna] Grounded in Colorado. This is not because we chose Caucasians today. It was because it is our environment. Do you think this is a lot, and these internal prejudices are simply … When do you think that this is really important? What is really important to you? Your values, their character, they treat you well. This is what I started to understand is much most important. It was a really cool experience, freed from all this.

Anna decided to leave the experiment in the same way as it seemed that you were ready to make a decision. I know that at the moment it is hypothetically, but you think you would follow Anna's proposal?

Ah, yes. We walked. We caught fire, but then she bounced off. That would be cool. I would definitely offer her.

Can you explain to me, the decision to offer Kacie? When the strongest connection is no longer Anon The option, why is there an impulse to continue instead of evading?

For me, my uncertainty only entered into possession. I just felt: “Hey, I want to see if she was attracting me. I want to see if it is real. ” I am going to this experiment, because I do not get a lot of dates in real life. Now I begin to demonstrate my personality, begin to create feelings with someone, and I want to see if my curiosity has overcome, mostly best from me. I wanted to see, I had to see. It was so deep, so far. She says that she is fond of this, I enjoy my time with her. Let's see if it can really work. And it did not work.

Do you feel that you ever had the necessary closure from how it happened? Could you completely express what this experience was for you for Kacie?

I think you must find out. But I would say that, regardless of some kind of conversation after that, the opportunity to go on discovery with someone -this made me really grow. It really made me [have a] A breakthrough, I think, really understand that this is really not about the race. This is really more about confidence. With her departure, this opened a very deep, unperturbed wounds for me. So, I think her and think her participation, because I do not think that this will make me what I am today without her, simply from an emotional point of view. At some point, I did not need to close. You really do not need, after you gathered it together, that she just did not want to be there.

Before I let you go, there was a lot of attention, sometimes criticism of working conditions over “Love is blind.” How did your experience go? Are there any changes that you think manufacturers should make in the show?

I had no bad time. The food was good. They have a private chef -head or something like that. Ten out of 10, finger up.

Would you do it again?

Oooh, no! Sorry, once enough. I have double broken hearts. It would be damn cruelly. I am now 32 years old. I have to calm down. I need to have children and relax.