I am gay at the end of 40 years. From the age of 19 I Many, mostly pleasant years, having random sex with other menI had a serious relationship in my 30 years This continued Four years, but This has never delivered me completely, because I felt not loved Neither sexually eats. The fact is that I Always longed for everyday sexField at any time I start off to date Any person When initial excitement It is reducedS, me Always get a desire to have sex again with other men.
I Now I wonder if I can ever maintain monogamous relations. I understand that many gays have an open relationship, but when I witnessed them, they seemed hard work, often causing great pain and jealousy for all participants. In many ways, I want another man to love me, allowing me to remain sexually free, but I'm afraid to imagine an emotional leak This would cause. I should simply Continue to have random sex and admit that long -term relationships are impossible? I feel a little lostField
The sexual journey of each person fluctuates. Try not to think about your needs for relationships or your ability to tolerate various types of sexual unions in the end. Your needs, how you are experiencing them now, may well change in the future; At a certain time, you can become less ambivalent and find some clarity and a convenient path … or not. At some point, you can meet someone, who gives you a transformative opportunity, holistically reflecting your desires … and at another moment you can decide that random ties are best suited for you. Worry about the future and play “What if?” The game is simply based on anxiety and an empty waste of your energy. Try to be in your relationship at the moment and see the value of every person with whom you may have sexual connection. When and if you are ever ready to deepen true intimacy with one person, you will find out.
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