DEAR ABBY: Sister flips out over intended name for unborn nephew

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Dear Abby: I am pregnant with my first child on both sides. My husband and I plan to use my husband's middle name as our son's name and my father's middle name as his middle name. My father is a “III” but he doesn't have any sons, so we thought this would be a way to honor him and represent my side of the family.

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My sister is the first person we shared our son's name with. She called me the next day to express her displeasure because she had always planned to use our father's middle name as her son's name. I knew this, but I didn't I think using it as a middle name would be a problem. Besides, she younger than me, unmarried and childless. She was so upset with me that I had to cut off the phone call because the conversation had become so… scream.

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During the conversation, she suggested that I not use that name, but honor our father by changing the baby's middle name to our father's name (which my husband and I Not I think it flows well) or use my maiden name as my son's middle name. Should I change my son's intended name because my sister wants to be the first to use our father's middle name for a potential future son? — CHOOSING A NAME IN THE EAST

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DEAR CHOICE: How did your sister end up in the middle of what's going on between you and your husband? decide I don't understand about your child's name. Certainly You Not you will have to change your plans to please your sister. Stop being a people pleaser, especially when it comes to your offspring. Name your baby what you think is best and don't look back.

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Dear Abby: I'm a 40-year-old woman dating a wonderful man my age. I purchased home when I'm 20, got several degrees, own own business and become successful. However I No good luck with the last guys I have dated. That man I let's meet now doesn't seem to understand some of life's needs. He doesn't showers frequently, wears the same clothes for several days in a row, drinks daily and stays out all night every weekend. When we met, he had no job, no car, and was living with a friend.

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Three months passed and he found a job. He practically moved into my house and helps with finances, but still doesn't shower. (He does although housework.) I have talked to him several times about his hygiene and he promises, but doesn't deliver. My family thinks I desperate for love and that I should let this guy go. What do you think? — LOSING HOPE IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR LOST HOPE: Much more important than what your family thinks about it is what YOU think? Since your wonderful man's body odor is offensive, give him an ultimatum. Tell him that even though you are starting to care about him, it is a deal breaker and if he wants to continue living with you, hell I have to shower regularly. Then give him a schedule or show him the door. (Wow!)

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