DEAR ABBY: Cost-obsessed husband won’t stop criticizing wife

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Dear Abby: This letter is embarrassing to write. When I order fast food, my husband wants me to ask the price of each item and gets upset if they are different from the prices on the online menu. I understand that there will definitely be growth in this economy.

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One day the difference was about $5. Because I didn't question it, heated argument followed. He said, “Just forget about it!” (I called back and said my husband didn't want it anymore.) These fast food places are overcrowded and understaffed. I Not I think that's right error them further. In addition, I had a stroke and can't quickly do the math in your head. We have money or I I wouldn't place an order.

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I tried to discuss the differences; he said I just want to be right. It was a LONG 40+ years, I have was with him. He was poor growing up, but we are by no means poor anymore. His his controlling behavior which I hate. His reaction is always the same: “Why don't you leave? LEAVE!”

I know he reads your column. Maybe you may help. I know I tired and I think his behavior is emotionally abusive and controlling. He He is 64 years old and too old to behave like this. Unfortunately, He been like this all my life. I need help. — TAKE OUT IN OHIO

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DEAR TAKEAWAY: This goes without saying that from now on your husband must order fast food. If he wants it to be a team effort, he can dictate numbers for you to write down and add up yourself. I don't think his comments about you moving on and leaving him are helpful unless he has control over other aspects of your marriage. Remind him that if money is the reason for your disagreement, then divorce will cost much more than marriage counseling. Then ask your doctor for a referral.

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Dear Abby: I like your column and read it often. I feel compelled to comment on a letter from the book “Midwest Regret” (June 11). I feel you didn't go far enough regarding that letter from the mother of a transgender adult whose new co-worker made fun of transgender people in her presence andpresumably others. This type of behavior will no longer be tolerated in the workplace and she should report this to her manager or HR if another incident occurs. (She could do this even now.) She, of course, does not need to do this. disclose her personal situation. — KEVIN H. IN CALIFORNIA

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DEAR KEVIN: Thank you for writing. The comments I received on this letter were informative. Many readers have informed me that the term I used to refer to transgender people—gender identity disorder—is outdated and no longer used. Following the publication of the American Psychiatric Association's DSM-5, this term was dropped and replaced with the term “gender dysphoria,” which clearly states that gender nonconforming is NOT a “disorder.” I should have known better. My fault.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jean Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact dear Abby at DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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